1. What aspects of youth are expressed in the novel's title? Was it wrong, as Figgy believes, to give Madeline the trappings of a little girl?

2. How did Figgy and Julia each define the ideal mother, the ideal wife, and the ideal life in general?

3. How would you describe the narrator's tone as he guides us through his unusual family history? How does Mac (Timothy) resolve the knowledge that Madeline's accident made it possible for him to be born?

4. Mac shares many nostalgic memories of his neighborhood, alongside wry observations about contemporary youth who spout pop psychology. How does Mac's life as a husband and father compare to the family in which he was raised? What has been gained and lost in his family through these three generations?

5. What accounts for Julia's tireless patience with Madeline? Would Madeline have done the same for Julia if the circumstances had been reversed? What drew Timothy's father to two such seemingly different women?

6. We know from the beginning that the Macivers are wealthy ("We were all proud to have an estate . . . the fruit of our dead grandfather's labor," Mac says in the novel's second paragraph). How does Mac feel about money? What does When Madeline Was Young illustrate about the concept of charity?

7. What does Mac tell us, particularly during his tour of Russia's world after her husband's murder, about his opinions regarding poverty and race and class? Is his sister correct in viewing Russia as a slave? Was his mother unrealistic? What did he learn from the summer with Cleveland and his sister?

8. Near the end of chapter six, Mac repeats lines from William Wordsworth while watching Madeline poolside. "She Dwelt Among the Untrodden Ways" ends with these lines: "She lived unknown, and few could know/When Lucy ceased to be;/But she is in her grave, and, oh/The difference to me!" Does this poem capture the essence of Madeline's interactions with men, or is the poem an ironic choice?

9. Should Mikey and Madeline have been allowed to marry? Which are the most and least genuine relationships described in the novel?

10. The Civil Rights Movement and the war in Vietnam form the historical backdrop for much of the novel. What tone is set as Mac weaves Madeline's story with his recollections of this turbulent time period? What was different about the undercurrent of war when the family gathered for the funeral of Buddy's son, Kyle?

11. Mac shares his father's enthusiasm for natural history. How does Mac's fascination with the natural world and anatomy shape his understanding of Madeline's injuries? Is his approach to life clinical?

12. How did your impressions of Buddy shift throughout the novel? Did Buddy "rescue" Madeline from Jerry in chapter ten? Why does Mac not see him as heroic, contrary to Russia's point of view?

13. In chapter fifteen, why does Mac so badly want Madeline to remember the boy she encountered when she was in Italy years ago?

14. What did Buddy and Mac resolve during their brawl in the novel's final chapter?

15. Jane Hamilton credits Elizabeth Spencer's novella The Light in the Piazza for partially inspiring When Madeline Was Young. If you have read the novella, or seen its 1962 film version (starring Olivia de Havilland), or been in the audience for the award-winning musical, share your experience with the other members of your book group. What might Madeline and Clara have thought of each other? What extreme differences exist between the matriarchs? In what way do the authors portray opposite forms of love?

16. The epigraph emphasizes physical beauty as they key to being captivating. Is Madeline empowered by looks that match conventional definitions of beauty, or does her beauty make her a victim? What might her fate have been had she looked more like Julia (without the girdle)?

17. What unusual tales distinguish your family history? Do you have a relative who, as Madeline did for Mac, played an unconventional role in your development?

18. Each of Jane Hamilton's novels is unique; this originality is itself her hallmark.
Discuss her previous works in the context of When Madeline Was Young. What are the conflicts and intensities that drive her diverse cast of characters?