1. Nakshidil tells her son that Turkey is like an ancient tree with its roots in the East and its limbs in the West. What does she mean? How does this apply to Turkey today?

2. What are the meanings of the word harem in the book? Why was the harem important for the sultan?

3. How does Nakshidil find life in the harem similar to life in the convent? What family values and what ways to please a man did she learn in the convent? How did they differ from the ones she was taught in the harem?

4. At one point, Nakshidil looks in the mirror and realizes she has been transformed. How has she changed physically, emotionally, and culturally?

5. Turkey was constantly struggling with the European powers. What were some of the issues? What was the Turks' attitude toward the French? What impact did Napoleon have on Turkey?

6. What was the relationship between Turkey and Russia? What effect did Catherine the Great have on Turkey? What was Catherine's goal vis-à-vis Istanbul?

7. Flowers, especially tulips, were important in Ottoman Turkey. Talk about how they were used in the palace and what significance they had.

8. What did Nakshidil have to learn in order to become a Muslim? What are the five pillars of Islam?

9. In the Ottoman Empire, clothing was used to signify status, religion, and power. How was this done? What were the most important parts of the wardrobe? How is clothing used today to signify power and wealth?

10. What was the importance of religion in Nakshidil's life as a child? As an adult?

11. The valide sultan was the most powerful woman in the Ottoman Empire. How did she express that power in the harem? How did she use her influence with the sultan? What were the material prizes?

12. How does Nakshidil describe the harem at the end of her life?