1. Jennifer's bond with her grandmother is as strong as ever. But in the letters, Sam makes a shocking revelation. How does the news affect Jennifer? Do the letters change aspects of their relationship?

2. There are many acts of personal courage in this novel. Jennifer getting past her loss of Danny and their 'Peanut.' Sam raising her family and sticking by her husband despite her love for Doc. Brendan fighting his fears of a painful and unsuccessful cancer treatment for the sake of Jennifer's love.

Can you think of any other acts of heroism that took place in the novel? How courageous was it for Jennifer to let go of her job? Which of these stands out most to you?

3. Jennifer is surprised to find a sheaf of letters addressed to her. Her grandmother promises to tell her the secrets she's never told anyone. Why do you think Sam is revealing those secrets now? And why does she choose to tell her story in letters?

4. A major theme of Sam's Letters to Jennifer is the importance of telling stories, especially to our families and loved ones. In Chapter 27, Jennifer reflects about writing her column and observes, "How man of us know the true stories of our parents and grandparents? How many of us share the stories of our lives with our children? What a loss to the children if we don't. What are we but our stories?"

But what would have happened if Sam had told her story sooner? Maybe while she was still with Grandpa Charles and raising her children? And what if Brendan had told Jennifer the story of his condition sooner? Do you think there's also a lesson that secrets have their place, too?

5. In one of her first letters, Sam describes to Jennifer two kinds of love: "The hot, crazy kind that turns your chest into a bell and your heart into a clapper. But also the more enduring kind that comes from knowing someone else deeply and letting yourself be known."

Thinking of the couples in the book . . . Sam and Doc, Sam and Grandpa Charles, Jennifer and Danny, Jennifer and Brendan . . . which were dominated by which kinds of love? Are they mutually exclusive or can they exist at the same time with the same person?

6. In one of her first letters, Sam describes to Jennifer two kinds of love: "The hot, crazy kind that turns your chest into a bell and your heart into a clapper. But also the more enduring kind that comes from knowing someone else deeply and letting yourself be known." Thinking of the couples in the book . . . Sam and Doc, Sam and Grandpa Charles, Jennifer and Danny, Jennifer and Brendan . . . which were dominated by which kinds of love? Are they mutually exclusive or can they exist at the same time with the same person?

7. Just when she least expects it, Jennifer gets a chance to experience a new love. How does this change her attitude on love and life?

8. Sam describes coming across a note in the library one day. It read, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin --- real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."

What events in the novel do Sam and Jennifer for a time treat as obstacles and realize are a part of life by the end?

9. With the discovery of Sam's letters and the unexpected possibility for love, Jennifer has some new thrilling experiences. In the end, what does Jennifer learn about love? What lessons can she pass on to others?

10. Many of the lessons about love and life imparted in Sam's Letters to Jennifer clearly come from Sam and her letters and are directed to her granddaughter, Jennifer. Are there any examples of Jennifer returning her own wisdom and experience to Sam?