1. Where have you seen the Danny Horst Rule play out in real life? What’s your opinion of it? Have you seen the reverse happen?

2. Why do you think Sally finds it so hard to believe that Noah might actually like her? Did you find it hard to believe?

3. Sally learns from her mother that we all have public and private selves. How would you describe Sally’s selves? How would you describe Noah’s? When do you think they switch from using their public to private selves with each other?

4. How would you characterize Sally’s relationship with “The Night Owls”? Why do you think it’s so hard for her to conceive of leaving?

5. How might this novel have been different if Sally were a cast member on “The Night Owls,” not just a writer?

6. Sally is both extremely confident and extremely insecure. How do you think these facts can both be true?

7. Discuss the different romantic relationships in the book, from Sally and Noah to Annabel and Danny to Viv and Dr. Theo. How would you describe each couple? Which relationship feels most like your own, or one you’d like to be in?

8. Danny tells Sally that the Danny Horst Rule matters only if it matters to Sally and Noah themselves. Did you agree? How does this realization help Sally?

9. What did you think of the email section of the book?

10. What did you think of the ending of the book?