1. What prompted you to read Honor Lost? Did you have any knowledge of honor killings prior to reading this book?

2. In American culture, it is generally considered politically incorrect to pass judgment on another culture and its customs and traditions. As a Jordanian, the author does not hold back her condemnation of the Islamic tradition and the treatment of women in general. How, if at all, did this influence the way you reacted to the events in the book? How did Norma's larger mission influence the way she told the story? Do you feel like there's another side to the story?

3. The author says that in Jordan the system of law, tradition and religion is taught in a systematic way. She calls it "gradual, incontestable and unavoidable." Through stories, teachings and legends, girls are taught their place in their families and in society and learn what to expect of their future. Are these same tools used in a similar way in the American culture to maintain the status quo? What challenges does this present to women's groups that want to change the way women are treated in the Islamic world?

4. What factors motivate the men in this story to uphold and encourage the status quo? Is there a happy medium between the liberal western culture and the strict laws of the Middle East?

5. Dalia paid the ultimate price for being committed to her relationship and her dreams. Norma, too, suffered for her commitment to her friend. Did the men in the book suffer in any way for the commitment they made to their cultural beliefs?

6. Would you have felt differently about Dalia had she been involved sexually with Michael? How important to the story was it that Dalia be innocent and chaste?

7. The author repeatedly illustrates the bond she shared with Dalia. Put yourself in Norma's place. Would you have helped Dalia meet secretly with Michael? How would you have reacted toward Dalia's father after her death?

8. As Dalia and Norma planned and executed their meetings with Michael and Jehan, do you think they truly understood the consequences of their actions?

9. Explore the themes of survival exemplified throughout the book. What does survival mean to the men in the book? What does survival mean to Dalia and Norma's mothers? In contrast, what does living mean to Dalia and Norma? Where did their desire for a different life come from?

10. Although the general outcome was known when the book began -- it was no secret that Dalia would be killed in an honor killing -- what surprises did you encounter while reading the story? What emotions did you experience?