1. Discuss Dale Loves Sophie to Death as a portrait of a marriage. Do you consider Dinah and Martin's marriage successful? How does it compare with other marriage portraits in the novel–for example, Lawrence and Pam's marriage? Dinah's parents' marriage?

2. Why did Dinah, as an adolescent, consider dancing to be "far sexier than sex" (page 185)? Do you agree with her perceptions about dancing?

3. Discuss Dinah's response to the birth of her first child (pages 174?175). Why was she both embarrassed and enraged?

4. Have you ever had a friend like Isobel? How does Dinah and Isobel's friendship change in the course of the novel?

5. Discuss Dinah's response to Toby's illness. Was she irresponsible in not seeking medical help sooner?

6. The novel offers some very sensual and highly detailed descriptions of food. Discuss the special role that food plays in the Howellses' domesticities.

7. Dinah realizes at a certain point that she has returned to Enfield every summer because she seeks an apology. "She wanted an absolute, blanket apology from Buddy and from Isobel and from Polly and from her father" (page 138). Does Dinah receive such an apology in the course of Dale Loves Sophie to Death? Why?

8. Do you consider Dinah responsible for the death of her father's cat? Discuss the role animals play in the novel. Consider, for example, the lost dog that Dinah and her parents encounter on their walk through town. Consider also the kittens Dr. Briggs brings the Howells children at the end of the novel.

9. "The events that might astonish them now–the only things that could not be foreseen–were the unpleasant surprises" (page 187). Do you agree that Dinah's fate is sealed? That there can lie in store for her no happy surprises?

10. Why do you think Robb Forman Dew chose the title Dale Loves Sophie to Death, particularly in view of the fact that Dale and Sophie are not characters in the book? Do you consider the title appropriate for the novel?