1. How does the fact that Frederic and Sarah speak different languages create misunderstandings, sometimes hilarious? Have you ever experienced this?

2. Seeing Frederic's apartment for the first time and sharing their first at-home dinner, Sarah Turnbull makes certain assumptions due to her own Australian culture. What does she later understand?

3. How are Frederic's contradictions reflective of France?

4. How is the author's visit to Paris to see Frederic different from her previous visits?

5. Explore the ways in which France and Australia are different but also similar. Are the same differences/similarities applicable to France and America?

6. What are the frustrations of speaking in a foreign language? Have you experienced this?

7. Why is Sarah Turnbull so eager to move from Levallois to the center of Paris?

8. The author tells us, "The biggest shock during these first months is how different France is from my romantic imaginings." How did Sarah Turnbull envision France and what does she conclude about the French?

9. Why is it so difficult for Sarah Turnbull to adapt to French ways? Why does she feel invisible?

10. What makes Paris so captivating according to Sarah Turnbull? What is a consequence of Paris's "pervasive beauty?"

11. How do the French approach dressing, and how is this different from the Australian/American approach?

12. What makes Sarah Turnbull realize she'll never be French and never be fully integrated? Have you had a similar experience?

13. How is Frederic's reaction to Australia different from what Sarah Turnbull expected? How are their roles reversed in Australia?

14. What does the author discover about "haute couture?"

15. Why is the French approach to rules and regulations so difficult for a foreigner to understand? How does Sarah Turnbull explain it?

16. Why is a view of the city --- achieved through the piercing of one wall in their apartment to make a window --- so important to the author?

17. Why do Sarah Turnbull's feelings about going to Baincthun change?

18. If you want to fit in with the French, what rules must you remember, according to Sarah Turnbull?

19. How did Sarah Turnbull's style of communicating change?

20. How has Paris changed Sarah Turnbull?